When it comes to kink, everyone starts somewhere. 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino is one of those starting points. 50 Shades of Kink When I saw that it was written by Tristan Taormino, I had very high hopes. This is not the first instructional book about kink that she has written. She also penned The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge. Which I would certainly consider that book the big…
Lots of vibrators will get you off quickly. Especially vibrators designed for targeting the clitoris or other highly sensitive areas. Clitoral vibrators are my go-to for quick and easy orgasm. But then the Iroha Zen came into my life. A very simple vibrator, with only 3-speed settings and a pulse setting. The design a simple bulb shape, with texture in a twisted wave. The matcha green color making me think of a whisk for making traditional matcha in a wooden…
For me, My Life on the Swingset has been one of those books that has been in my ‘To Read’ pile for a while. Though I never quite got the time. An avid fan of the podcast that shares the same name I have been listening since it started way back in 2010. It was my podcast of choice for riding on the bus every day to work and still is! Reading books for a little while taking a back…
Summer has come and gone, while autumn has arrived finally. The leave changing colors and the air getting colder, bundling up under blankets. It really is my favorite time of year. This is not to say that Summer was not amazing. From participating in the Summer 100 challenge to getting to attend my first conference it was busy! My Polyam family and I also moved into our new house, finally finding a place that is all ours! I wish I…
The NoMoreWetSpot Blanket is a waterproof fleece blanket that is also reversible. NoMoreWetSpot sells their blankets in three sizes. The mini which is 30″x6″, their basic size in 50″x60″ and their Jumbo at 5′x7’ft. The blankets are double sided waterproof fleece and come in a couple of color selections. While I was sent the black/tan. There is also black/red and aqua/purple. The blanket is lightweight coming in at under 1.5lbs. So it will not feel like you are lugging it…
CW: This whole post will contain talk about abuse and trauma. While I have written in the past about healing from non-sexual trauma in the past. I have only written about dealing with sexual trauma tangentially. While I was at Woodhull, I had the pleasure to attend Using Sex Toys as a Tool to Heal From Trauma run by Sarah B Holl from Formidable Femme. It was one of many I was looking forward to. Healing sexually has been the most recent focus for me….
When I first started into anything involving non-monogamy and polyamory, I was overwhelmed. I took the tactic of treating it like anything else I was interested in. Studying. Took my time to find blogs, books, and other resources. The first thing I dove into was the language, what words changed and what things stayed the same. Unicorn, Solo-Polyam, and relationship anarchy? I was rather overwhelmed when I first started. Always worried about not using the right words. Until I started…
Blush has only recently come into my life as a company I really enjoy. When given the chance I have jumped at being able to review their products. Their Avant Line recently grew with their Avant Pride selection. Each one made to be the colors of a different pride flag. The Avant Pride P5 Fluid celebrates the Genderfluid flag with its bold colors in beautiful stripes. Given that I recently came out as Non-Binary it quickly made it on my…
Lube is an important staple to have at your ready when going at it alone or with a partner. When it comes to using it in the dark, it can be a little tricky. Making sure you found the right container. Especially when you might have access to different types of different preferences, partners, or toys. Then there is making sure you are getting it where you actually want the lube, and not all over the place. Certainly, there are a…
Writing is hard and writing about my personal life is even harder at times. Putting myself out into the world leaves me vulnerable from the second I push the publish button. It is something that when it comes to writing that is not a review I struggle at. Often I am left with the dread that I am just yelling into the wind. Like I am being almost narcissistic when I write about myself too much. It would have never…